Burnt up almost all the calories i had, last week. Extensive travelling with small tasks all around the state, made schedules very tight. I thought i may not come up with a blog for the month of November. While this thought, preoccupied my mind, i boarded into a bus for a half and hour journey to another terminal. All the long journeys turned boredom but this very short journey inspired me to blog a article. I sat in a two seater with another person, who apparently seemed to be educated. Now, before going any further, i’ll narrate the activities of that gentleman. I call him as ‘gentleman’, because his conversation proved that he is so.
He took his 6th finger(mobile) and dialled a number. The person on the another side, didn’t pick up the call. He tried twice ,but both the attempts went in vain. He tried again which made me to think he might be from the hereditary of Robert I of Scotland, who got inspiration from a webbing –Spider and marched back to war after defeats and eventually won. Not Mr.Robert I alone, this time around, my co-passenger (Mr.Gentleman) too won. The person on other side picked up the cal and said ‘Hello’ in a feeble tone. As my intuition said, that person was a girl, precisely saying, his girl. The conversation went like this. Between, for all your information, I didn’t sharpen my ears. He was speaking through his right ears to avert the bustling road-side sounds, resulting in (un)fortunately too closer to my ears. Even though, i shut all the holes of my ears, it pierced through.
He: Hello
She: hello
He: then
She: (silence)
He: ok. lemme start
She: fine
He: I haven’t even started asking that conventional, ”how are you” question, but you were able to come up with reply.. any telepathy or what???? (he never smiled with his own joke.. may be, it was an attempt to set a trap for her)
She: Well, i can understand whatever you feel... it never need’s verbal assistance
He: if it so, can you say what exactly i think now( i could see his face turning pale as conversation grew)
She: you are thinking that you are wasting your bucks with this call!!! ( a small laughter followed up)
He: not just money but energy and time too(his tone turned dry and it seems he was all set to break up the things )
She: is there something wrong with you??? You are not speaking as you do before!
He: so, do you know when was the last time we spoke? Do you know how much I changed since then.. not just me, but you too
She: i didn’t change!! You might have, but how can you say that I have, without even seeing me for these much days
He: that’s it. You itself came up with the problems that i gonna speak.. clearly, almost year back, we had great time spending time together. Then, we went to two different states, joined two different companies. Hardly called or messaged. I thought, some where it will end and we may return back to our older form with such lovely fun and happiness. But now, i feel that we are almost at the irrevocable point. Our transparency and sharing has been halted completely since a year back. I have already said you that, in my view, only those two form the major ingredients of an Love. With those two missing, i found our love going no where but to an end. When i came up with the idea of quitting at the end of college,(his pale face turned wet. I could understand he is really trying to make his mind go against his heart. It was just like a war between his heart and mind. The victims being his eyes which started shedding tears) you said, am talking rubbish. But, at this juncture you could have felt, what i said that time had carried a significant meaning.
She: ( a long pause remained)
He: you there?
She: listening (feeble tone)
He: now, lets set the things straight. What ever may be the result is!!! Okay???
She: why you turned this way, within a shorter span of time?
He: i didn’t change, you made so. I hope, i have given a prior notice that i have changed over the time.
She: i cannot take up this call further. May i cal you back, after i make my mind as harder as you
He: it makes no sense
She: stop this non-sense. Love you.(she hang up the phone)
He: (eyes turned wet with thin lines of tears under each of them)
I thought to console him. But, while even the two-seater is disjoint, i know how i should be and then got down without even turning his side. I don’t know how that story proceeded further. But felt sad about their pathetic conditions. That story had put a thinking cap on my head. Now, let us view the whole story in a third person’s perception. They both seemed to be conventional lovers with a contemporary love among them. I call them conventional persons because, they both wanted each other in their packet ( he needs transparency and complete sharing, while she still believes he is in her packet as he was before and miserably fails to understand his evolution) . Absolutely it’s fair. I call their love as contemporary one because the contemporary form of love is the one which hardly finds time to share.
I personally feel that only one of the following two things might have played a major role in that story.
- He has clearly said that, he has already called for an break up before an year to which she has said no. Now, even though she said so, definitely it should have caused some sort of thinking like this, ” see.. he has proven a point that he is ready for break-up and can live without you. So when you” or else like this, “we can wait upon, let the time decide till then,”. Both the above cases are unhealthy one. In first case, she has not postponed the break up because of her love for him, but she needs time to work on her mental balance to come up with such decision. In second case, she don’t want him to decide the end but the time. So, whatever may be the case, they are ready to break up. The passion for love has died and they are now patient for time to heal that wound. Once the wounds are conciliated, they would accept the statement,” we are through” mutually. So, the first thing is eventually, fall of love
- They have let their love to ruin with the weeds called “ego”. The weeds that would never get cleaned up until a self-cleaning process is done. I suppose, this thing is worst of the two. Both the persons, don’t want to end up in a break-up. Yet, they don’t want themselves falling to other's feet. The funny thing is they fail to understand that they have already fallen to other’s feet, ever since the love started. But, somewhere down the line, people start to think upside down, imagining that as if they were on the top and the other being down to them. This sort of thing happens to everyone in their life through their teenage.
- My suggestion would be, whatever it is, take the other person for a Walk. Have a chat. Try to figure out among the above two states, which place they stand. Then act upon with respect to that. With this fast-paced world, it’s important that for us to understand, even our love will not stand by us, if we fail to treat it properly. Spend time for it. Share the things. Because there is no point in ignoring the love and regretting in the future for ignoring it.
